I've done the pre-med, med school, residency, etc. I am so happy to have found this blog. It MAY be true that a year in, her shelf will crack and she'll leave with him. Hopefully she could realize if she was born into one of these cults that also distrust apostates she probably wouldn't see through them either. Keep your options open. Most mormon girls look at guys like you as a project and that they have a lifetime to work on the project.
You are the woman of valor eshet khayil sung about by Solomon in Proverbs 31 http: Good for you, good for your husband, and definitely good for your childen. Her Religion is the single most important thing in her life. But wait a minute. I keep busy with my own activities, but it becomes really hard to have a date night. Mormons have separate congregations for young single adults, which is very convenient. You will raise the kids by yourself, and he won't help even when he's home because he'll be too tired or feel too entitled to HIS time alone.
When my wife and I married, we were very different, but I found all the differences delightful. It time with him I value most. I am sure you can all guess how this ends As his moving date was approaching, he was spending more and more time with his friends and less and less time with me. Though I am yet to see if we would make it.
I think in most situations its either you join or she leaves- either you, or the church. As soon as she becomes dissatisfied, she will turn face and educate the OP about just how wrong it would be for her to stay with him. There is still a chance you can work out your differences, but it will require major concessions on both sides. But i too am afraid to endure this. Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission. Hi, I am so glad to know that I am not alone. In her obviously orthodox Mormon paradigm dad's a bishop, she went to BYU and on a missionunderstand that she believes her husband must be an orthodox Mormon and get married to her in the temple. I think people get carried away with the whole social status of a Doctor which is really unnecessary. Posts from people who have your same problem occur on a regular basis here on RFM.